28.4.05
THREE SIMPLE WORDS
There are many things that we can do to perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words. When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following three-word sentences can enrich every relationship:
I'LL BE THERE.
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
I MISS YOU.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
I RESPECT YOU.
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
MAYBE YOU'RE RIGHT.
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME.
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I THANK YOU.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
COUNT ON ME.
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
LET ME HELP.
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt, they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I UNDERSTAND YOU.
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.
GO FOR IT.
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
I LOVE YOU.
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs, the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words, "I love you." ¶ 28.4.05 0 comments
I'LL BE THERE.
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
I MISS YOU.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
I RESPECT YOU.
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.
MAYBE YOU'RE RIGHT.
This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME.
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.
I THANK YOU.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
COUNT ON ME.
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."
LET ME HELP.
The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt, they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.
I UNDERSTAND YOU.
People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. This applies to any relationship.
GO FOR IT.
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
I LOVE YOU.
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs, the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words, "I love you." ¶ 28.4.05 0 comments
25.4.05
Going for a short getaway....
Hehe, i'm going for a short 2D2N getaway... Taking Night bus to KL on fri and coming back on Sun afternoon.. so dun need to ask whether im free anot, cos im out of town... looking forward to the trip.....
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18.4.05
Johor Trip 17 April 2005
Hey, i went on a day trip to Johor last sunday (that's yesterday lah) haha, and guess what the activity we did.... If you guess Shopping, you are half correct... come on, think again...
Haha, we did what most adults would do there... Gocery Shopping... yeah.... can't believe it?? I can't believe it myself... i tend to do things that i would seldom do, when out with my friends... haha.. I will do Guy's method of shopping when i'm inside a supermarket.. Zero into the item i wanted, straight to cashier and out i go... hehe...
Well, we went to Carrefour first, lost for awhile... before seeing the signboards that direct us there..haha.. Ate A&W... still so nice, but too bad, singapore don't have anymore outlets... went shopping inside Carrefour, bought alot of titbits... after that went to Giant... haha, this time ard, we went buying forzen food for our BBQ this coming weekend ba... then we went to a Seafood "Restaurant" by the Sea... looks like Kelong type, but it's just beside the sea (Coast)... Nice Black Pepper Crab they serve... (maybe because i like the way they cook it... drooling le...)
After which it's time to go home... looking forward to our BBQ... haha...foodies....yummy yummy ¶ 18.4.05 0 comments
Haha, we did what most adults would do there... Gocery Shopping... yeah.... can't believe it?? I can't believe it myself... i tend to do things that i would seldom do, when out with my friends... haha.. I will do Guy's method of shopping when i'm inside a supermarket.. Zero into the item i wanted, straight to cashier and out i go... hehe...
Well, we went to Carrefour first, lost for awhile... before seeing the signboards that direct us there..haha.. Ate A&W... still so nice, but too bad, singapore don't have anymore outlets... went shopping inside Carrefour, bought alot of titbits... after that went to Giant... haha, this time ard, we went buying forzen food for our BBQ this coming weekend ba... then we went to a Seafood "Restaurant" by the Sea... looks like Kelong type, but it's just beside the sea (Coast)... Nice Black Pepper Crab they serve... (maybe because i like the way they cook it... drooling le...)
After which it's time to go home... looking forward to our BBQ... haha...foodies....yummy yummy ¶ 18.4.05 0 comments
4.4.05
What I Have Done
hehe, went for my favourite activity on Saturday... KTV session, this time went with kt only, he finally got a saturday off, so we went to Suntec and sing our hearts out.. haha... sang for only 3hrs lor, think now KBox got time limit le... we sang from 230 till 530... After that, met up with his gf (May), Fiona and bf (Keira)... went for Ice-cream at Olio Bites ( and ate Yami Yogurt too)... chit chat for 1hr+ ba, then went to eat Crystal Jade... haha... sounds ex but each pay ard $10 lor... so still affordable...After eating, we sat there and chit chat till they close that's 10+ then we walk to stamford road there, and went on our separate ways...
Sunday leh, slept till 230pm then wakie.. haha... Pig right, i know lor... Read the papers that Pope John Paul passed away at 3am+.. so sad to hear that... haiz, but he has been ill for sometime le, it might be better to lessen the suffering... Read a paragraph like his last words was something like, I have been looking for you and now you have come for me...
After that go buy goceries for mom at market, then waited for my brother to finish trimming his hair, then go home bathe and prepare to go out again.. Went Bt Panjang Plaza there return books (my sister lah) and had Long John Silver... after that proceeded to IMM Best Denki scout for TV... our TV after so many years, he cant make it le... but at Best Denki like nothing much, so we went to Jurong Point Harvey Norman, and saw a Panasonic 29" CTV at $999.00 like not bad.. so we decided to get that... think my sis and mom go purchase it on Wednesay (my sis's off day).. reach home watch VCD again, then go sleep liao.. nearly fell asleep at midnight, then suddenly got SMS, my boss cc sms to me lor... haha.. even sms also got cc copy... read it then can't sleep liao, toss and turn for another 30mins ba, then fall asleep... ¶ 4.4.05 0 comments
Sunday leh, slept till 230pm then wakie.. haha... Pig right, i know lor... Read the papers that Pope John Paul passed away at 3am+.. so sad to hear that... haiz, but he has been ill for sometime le, it might be better to lessen the suffering... Read a paragraph like his last words was something like, I have been looking for you and now you have come for me...
After that go buy goceries for mom at market, then waited for my brother to finish trimming his hair, then go home bathe and prepare to go out again.. Went Bt Panjang Plaza there return books (my sister lah) and had Long John Silver... after that proceeded to IMM Best Denki scout for TV... our TV after so many years, he cant make it le... but at Best Denki like nothing much, so we went to Jurong Point Harvey Norman, and saw a Panasonic 29" CTV at $999.00 like not bad.. so we decided to get that... think my sis and mom go purchase it on Wednesay (my sis's off day).. reach home watch VCD again, then go sleep liao.. nearly fell asleep at midnight, then suddenly got SMS, my boss cc sms to me lor... haha.. even sms also got cc copy... read it then can't sleep liao, toss and turn for another 30mins ba, then fall asleep... ¶ 4.4.05 0 comments
In Memory of (Holy Father) Pope John Paul II
1920 - 2005 Pope John Paul II
1920 - 2005 Pope John Paul II
Hmmm, i may not be a Catholic but i still feel sad abt Holy Father's demise... haiz...
Read more about him at TNP website: http://newpaper.asiaone.com.sg/news/story/0,4136,85994,00.html
1.4.05
Friday, mini weekend...but i have no mood...
hmmm, altho it's already friday, but somehow i dun have the weekend mood... why??? I need a holiday break, but you know, $$ is quite tight now lor... haiz... will i get a pay raise... i understand the situation now and i know the promise will be fulfil, so i just have to wait...
Hey, i'm really tired playing mind games le... now going to totally shut off my over sensitive mind... and let it be on normal mode... I'm not a person good at expressing myself, but i often can interpret things super fast and it seems to bring me more problems... haha..
As i have mentioned to Ah Dor, the attention i'm getting is making me uncomfortable wor... haha, but i'm trying to be normal as she told me to be... so if i'm weird these few days, dearest friends, please be more accommodating lah, trying to adjust myself...
Yesterday wanted to do some Shopping Therapy, but can't find anything nice... haha... maybe dun have the mood also... reach home watched VCD, chat online, surf some net... haiz, guess have to do something to get my mood back... ¶ 1.4.05 0 comments
Hey, i'm really tired playing mind games le... now going to totally shut off my over sensitive mind... and let it be on normal mode... I'm not a person good at expressing myself, but i often can interpret things super fast and it seems to bring me more problems... haha..
As i have mentioned to Ah Dor, the attention i'm getting is making me uncomfortable wor... haha, but i'm trying to be normal as she told me to be... so if i'm weird these few days, dearest friends, please be more accommodating lah, trying to adjust myself...
Yesterday wanted to do some Shopping Therapy, but can't find anything nice... haha... maybe dun have the mood also... reach home watched VCD, chat online, surf some net... haiz, guess have to do something to get my mood back... ¶ 1.4.05 0 comments
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